Sex Therapy | Individual Therapy
Many grew up having learned that sex is a topic that should not be discussed. From first experiences with masturbation you may have been told that this is “private” and that you “don’t talk about it” or “don’t do it”. You may also have been told that sex is to be saved for marriage, and the purpose of sex is to have children. Sexuality as a positive force in your life, the pleasure your body can experience, and having responsible intimacy with others were probably not topics of conversation growing up.
It is little wonder that the topic of sex and sexuality is often laced with guilt, shame and embarrassment. As a result, many do not know how to have an open and safe conversation. It is time to change this.
Studies conclude that a healthy sex life improves your emotional and physical health. Sexual frequency even affects how long you live, according to the British Medical Journal. Some proven health benefits are better self-esteem, stress reduction, better sleep, pain reduction, better heart health, improved immunity, to mention a few.
You may have physical limitations or differences that make sex difficult or painful even if you have desire. We talk openly about what these are, and help you think compassionately and creatively about your experience so sex can be satisfying.
For most people, however, the challenges have more to do with the conflicting thoughts, beliefs and feelings they have surrounding sex. We welcome any ideas, questions or problems you may have. The following are a sample of topics people come to us for help with:
- A lack of sexual desire
- Difficulty turning off unwanted thoughts during sex
- Compulsive sexual thoughts and/or behavior
- Problems with erection or lack of lubrication
- Difficulty achieving orgasm
- Anxieties about sexual performance
- Current or past sexual abuse or assault
- Discomfort with use of pornography
- Fear of trying something new
- Concerned about sexual fantasies
- Unsure how to satisfy sexual fantasies
- A desire for more frequent sex
We understand that it may feel easier to keep any issues you may experience or desires and longings to yourself, and hope that things will change on their own. Unfortunately most people have little success with this and often see an escalation of their concerns.
Most clients feel that it is difficult to start a conversation about sex, but our approach brings understanding, relief and a whole new perspective on what is possible. You will experience reduced anxiety and shame, and increased pleasure and connection with yourself and others.
Many people have bought into the messages of popular culture that great sex equates to perfect bodies, trying new positions, and mixing up routines and toys. The reality is that great sex has more to do with your ability to connect, communicate, be honest, and be present in the body you have. These abilities are core to a deep sexual and erotic experience.
Whether your goal is to address intimacy concerns, resolve traumas, understand the effect of childhood experiences, free yourself from societal discrimination, or a desire to rejuvenate, enhance and expand your experience of yourself as a sexual being, we encourage you to start expressing your needs and desires.
We encourage you to talk with a therapist who will meet you in conversation with experience, and an open heart and mind. It is important that you find a therapist who can work with you without bias. Bias in your therapist can lead to psychological damage to your self-esteem and other serious issues.
When clients work with us they feel a sense of relief as we encourage and inspire you to embrace, accept and express your sexuality on your terms.
Questions for Thought
Below are a few questions that are intended to help you consider your personal situation more closely. If you are ready to improve and live your life to the fullest, we encourage you to contact us to discuss how we can best help.
- Do you feel sexually attractive?
- Do you stick to the same routines around sex and are you finding it boring?
- Do you feel like everyone else is having more sex than you?
- How do you feel about the intersection between love and affection and getting your sexual needs met?
- Do you use or refuse sex as a way to control?
- Does you or your partner use or refuses sex unfairly?
- Are you able to adjust to change when it’s necessary?
- Is your sex life satisfying?
- Are you having sexual performance issue?
- How often do you use pornography?